Sunday, May 24, 2015

There is NO excuse or defense for Josh Duggar's criminal acts

If you think there is a so-called Christian defense or good excuse for Josh Duggar molesting his sisters -- or anyone else -- then you should re-examine a lot of things about yourself.

As a survivor of childhood abuse by my ex-stepfather, Donnie L., and having some in my family and some of our family friends refuse to believe me or just ignore it and go on about things without addressing it, I can tell you that it damages a person for the rest of his or her life, in subtle ways and not-so-subtle ways.

There is NO excuse for sexual abuse or mistreatment of a child -- and certainly NOT because the perpetrator is a Christian. Because, hey, I can tell you if the perp was a pagan or an Atheist (or anything other than a Christian), people would be calling for his or her head on a stick.

Listen, there are overwhelming numbers of Christian criminals in prison. Atheists account for a tiny percentage -- look it up! So, just because you are Christian, it doesn't mean there's any special defense or excuse for that type of heinous behavior. Again, I can think of NO EXCUSE or reasonable defense.

I also do not buy that he simply 'made a mistake.' Making a mistake is giving in to peer pressure from your friends and cheating on an English pop quiz worth 10 points. Sexually molesting not one, but more than one person -- and your sisters, at that -- is in no way a mistake. If you think that, you need to examine your morals and/or ethics.

Or maybe it would be okay if Josh Duggar molested YOUR own kids? Yeah...how would you like that, and would you see it as a mistake? If you're a mother, I hope like HELL you don't answer that question with anything other than a NO. Because if anybody ever hurt my kids (and mine are grown now), they'd have to get a cell ready for me, because I would be one hellacious Mama Bitch on hot wheels going after the person or persons responsible.

Random fact #15-0524

Another random life fact: I used to be a bank teller for Sovran Bank in Virginia in the late 80s. Sovran Bank eventually became Bank of America.

Most of my traditional jobs (before I quit in 1997 to freelance FT) were in the banking, government, mortgage, and consumer credit industries.

Until I built up my freelance business, I also worked part-time jobs, including one as administrative support for Meadowlake Behavioral Health Services, an extension of Bass Baptist Hospital. I helped schedule the nurses, among other duties.

Meadowlake was a psychiatric inpatient facility. I was required to have keys with me at all times, and every single door had to be locked and unlocked each and every time you went into another wing or area.

Before I became a professional writer, I'd already lived an interesting life. I'd seen a lot of things. Some weird, some mundane, but always interesting. That type of stuff comes in handy when you're building plots or developing characters.

When news isn't so much Breaking News of note

Couldn't help myself, so I tweeted Rob at The Gazette and asked him about the Breaking News updates that really aren't Breaking News-worthy:

@Gazette_RobJ, "is someone there at The Gazette going nuts with the Breaking News updates? Over the past two weeks or so, I've noticed some news items that weren't on the level of true Breaking News in the sense of, "The community MUST know about this NOW because it's unexpected and it'll impact them in a salient way." Example: I sympathize with a dog dying in a house fire (because we own four dogs), but honestly, I don't think that's an event that could qualify as Breaking News that would concern and/or affect the majority of this city's residents or those in the areas surrounding it. However, my condolences DO go to the pet owner. I've lost beloved pets and it's sad. What's your take? If there's a deluge of Breaking News that may not always qualify as such, I think readers will become numb to the announcements."

Standing up for what's right, even in the face of obstacles

To be honest, I would've done EXACTLY what Edward Snowden did. In fact, it wasn't the government, but I did do the same thing -- or similar -- back in the mid-80s when I realized an employer of mine was breaking a bunch of laws, including labor laws. I gathered information and went to the media. I did a television interview with my face blurred out and it was broadcast by major media outlets in a large area.

The employer was John Lane (and family) and the company I worked for was Federated Capital Corporation in Grafton, VA. I was a nighttime supervisor there and I couldn't, in good conscience, keep working there and watch customers lose their homes over illegal practices. I have a conscience, and although it meant I would have to quit my job (I wasn't fired) and even put myself at risk (see below), I decided to take that risk for the greater good. Nobody else would stand up and do it, so I did. Now, years later, I'm glad I did.

The result? That sleazy employer was brought to court and his sleazy empire was shut down. People told me NOT to do it, because he allegedly had Mafia ties. I did it anyway. Someone had to.

So, if given the chance, I would've done the SAME thing Snowden did. Someone has to have the balls, because for most people, they damn sure have shriveled up over the years!

Monday, May 18, 2015

Looking back on nearly a year with Lipedema and Lymphedema

Almost a year ago, I was diagnosed with Lipedema and Lymphedema. There are no medicines to take, no cures to be had. You do not have to be overweight to have this, and they aren't sure what causes it (sometimes even children have it, sadly). That's why it's labeled 'unclear etiology' by the medical journal article linked below, which was published in the Journal of the American Board of Family Medicine (JABFM).

"Approach to Leg Edema of Unclear Etiology"
http://www.jabfm.org/content/19/2/148.full.pdf+html

The U.S. is far behind Europe in diagnosing and treating these conditions, but raising awareness can help those who may have it and not know it. I'm doing my part. Lipedema often runs in families and is thought to have a possible genetic connection. Hormones are also involved, since only a handful of males have EVER been diagnosed with it.

In severe cases, you lose mobility or, sometimes, have your leg(s) amputated. Thankfully, I was diagnosed and began MLD (Manual Lymph Drainage) therapy and started wearing compression stockings. My legs, below the knees, are affected. But sometimes it spreads. I'm at Stage Two, and DO NOT want to end up at Stages 3 or 4.

So far I'm doing okay with managing it. If you saw me out in public, you'd never know I have this condition, but I do. There has been marked improvement, but I can never NOT keep up the maintenance. It will not go away. It can only be managed. Some day I hope researchers and doctors pinpoint the cause(s) and find a cure. Most people haven't heard of Lipedema OR Lymphedema. I sure hadn't prior to 2014.

Ladies, it doesn't matter how young or old you are, and it doesn't matter if you're a size 2 or a size 20+ -- you should become familiar with these diseases. The quality of your life depends on it.

Sunday, May 17, 2015

But why are you so angry...?

Here's something else I've noticed: when a man rants or bitches about something on his FB profile -- or anywhere, actually -- I don't see people asking him, "Gee, Bob, why are you so angry?" or, "Why such an angry post, Bob?" If a woman posts the same, she's automatically a bitch or some other word and probably -- GASP! -- an angry feminist (or feminazi) instead.

Let me assure you, I get riled up and outspoken on here. I get irritated and blunt at times. On occasion, I get annoyed and outright angry. But despite my posts, you have never EVER seen my full fury. You do not want to see that, and I do not want to unleash it. That is not bullshit talk, that's fact. It's not pretty and it doesn't make anybody feel good or happy, so I'd prefer not to go there if possible. Unless I'm in an Avengers movie, of course :-).

In my posts, on FB and my blogs, I will:

...say or write what I want, when I want, to whomever I want.
...say or write things that will piss you off.
...say or write about things that will make you think.
...say or write about things that make you NOT want to think about certain things.
...speak as a human being, not just as a set of boobs or a vagina.
...provoke and evoke feelings you may or may not like.
...say or write things you, yourself, are too shy or chickenshit to say.
...say or write about things you're to afraid to say, either because of yourself or because you're afraid of offending your relatives or friends (in other words, they OWN you on some level because you allow them to muzzle you).
...say or write about things that you do not understand, or that you don't *want* to understand.
...say or write about things that confuse or confound you (I'm under no obligation to make full and complete sense to you; that's why I'm ME and you're YOU!).

And much, much more.

I have a voice and I will use it.
You cannot stop me.
I will not let you stop me.
Because I'm here.
I'm alive.
Because my voice matters.
Not MORE than anyone else's, but just as much.


Silence is a painful option for me when words must be spoken or written.
First and foremost, I'm a writer. 
We all are, in fact.
We are all writing our own narratives on this journey called life.


I write a lot of things.
I write long things.
I write to keep myself sane.
I write to keep myself from taking out my full wrath on people.
I write as a means of therapy.

If my posts are too long or challenging, don't read them.
But if you do, thank you.
I can be verbose.
I can be brief.
In the end, I make that decision.
And I'm NOT Silent, because

In the face of wrongs that should be righted:

Silence is a killer.
Silence allows wrongdoing to grow and fester.
Silence is the accomplice of injustice.
Silence is cowardice and complacency.
In the end, Silence shackles us all.
Do not hand Silence the manacles and keys.
Stand up and SPEAK, even if yours is the lone voice of sanity and reason.


But please, for some of you who have mentioned that I seem angry or that my posts are sometimes angry, so what? I post what I want and it may seem angry or oppositional to you, but that's your take. I'm responsible for my posts and the emotions I feel when writing them. However, YOUR reaction (and mine to YOUR posts) is YOUR responsibility (as it is mine as well).

Furthermore, don't question, shame, or condescend to me about an angry post unless you will also confront your male friends or family members. Even then, they have a right to express themselves if they're angry. You don't have to agree and neither do I. But in particular, don't indicate, especially in a passive-aggressive way, that women -- or females in general -- should always play nice. Because we don't, and we will rip your ass to shreds if you test us.

Feminist? Yes, I am one. But so is my husband and he was a feminist BEFORE we met. Learn the definition of 'feminist' and realize that not all feminists are like -- neither are they ONLY female.

Nope, I'm not angry right now. 
But I *could* be if you wanted it. 

Monday, May 11, 2015

Message from my Muse

Delivered from my muse today:

You slashed my soul with your jagged words.
My heart bled indifference.

Saturday, May 09, 2015

Calling all authors and readers! Come join us at Read-O-Rama




Read-O-Rama Book Share
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Attention, author friends! You can promote your books on this group for FREE. Readers, you can share short reviews of books you've read or post your recommendations. Always looking for a great read!

Please come and join my newest group, Read-O-Rama, for both readers and writers. Let's chat about books, share recommendations, and disappear into the world of words. This is the place for bibliophiles, so let's celebrate our book addictions ;-)

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Tuesday, May 05, 2015

SUN SIGNS FOR WRITERS now available in my Etsy shop for only $1.99



The ebook version of SUN SIGNS FOR WRITERS (originally released in print by Writer's Digest Books) is now available in my Etsy shop at
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SUN SIGNS FOR WRITERS blends the subjects of writing and astrology in an unusual way that intrigues, motivates, and inspires readers not only to know themselves better in an astrological way, but as creative persons as well.

Writers learn the general characteristics they possess based on the inclinations of their zodiacal sun sign. This information touches on areas of their sun sign that may make them stronger writers as well as cautioning them about sun sign traits that may hinder their progress. End-of-chapter writing exercises will urge each writer-sign type to stretch personal boundaries, break writer’s block, and hone their innate talents/abilities.

Finally, writers will discover a new tool for developing characters based on each sun sign's physical/mental/emotional makeup. There are many techniques for mastering characterization found in countless books on writing, but this book provides a unique and creative way of building characters using the zodiac to develop the perfect character to suit your story needs.

SUN SIGNS FOR WRITERS will help you connect with your inner writer in ways you've never imagined before!

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EDITORIAL REVIEWS:

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++ Midwest Book Review calls SUN SIGNS FOR WRITERS "A unique, revealing guide"

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Tuesday, April 28, 2015

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In order to produce your AstroCreativity reading/report, I will need:

—Month, day, and year of your birth

—Your exact time of birth (if you don't know, the chart will be without your ascendant info)

—City, state, and country of birth

—A valid email address

WHAT IS AN ASTROCREATIVITY READING/REPORT?

AstroCreative readings/reports provide insights into who you are as a person—and who you are as a creative—by analyzing the astrological influences/characteristics evident in your personal birth (natal) chart.

++AstroCreative readings are much more than just charts and reports; AstroCreative readings include a specific creativity reading authored by Bev in tandem with your chart and general interpretation.

++As part of your personal consultation, Bev will cast your birth (natal) chart and discuss your astrological characteristics as they relate to your personality as well as your writing and overall creativity.

++Bev uses her unique brand of intuition and creativity to add a splash of originality to her astrological readings. As a professional author, she is able to relate to and understand writers and other creatives.

++In order to render a client's natal chart and creativity reading, clients must provide accurate data (date of birth, time of birth* and location of birth). PLEASE NOTE: If no birth time is available, the chart will not include information on the ascendant (rising) sign.

++ AstroCreative readings are for entertainment/information purposes only. Progress and/or success as a writer is solely dependent upon each individual client/writer and his/her actions or decisions in the individual field of expertise.

++No guarantees, implied or otherwise, will be made regarding the information, suggestions, opinions and/or advice discussed with clients regarding their personal and/or professional lives.

Disclaimer: For entertainment purposes ONLY.